Happy Mother’s Day

It’s time to give womanhood its crown back.

Those who have followed my work over the past decade know I didn’t begin by speaking up for boys and men. I started with women. After volunteer work around the world supporting girls and women in crisis, I grew alarmed by a poison of female victimhood I saw taking root in the West. I wrote and spoke about it relentlessly, urging women to reclaim agency instead of grievance. I even wrote children’s books to fight against this victimhood, a disease instilled in young girls before they even reach school.

Then a staffer for the late Senator John McCain introduced me to the boy crisis. Suddenly I became “the chick that stands up for boys” in Washington circles. I poured my energy into highlighting how boys were falling behind in school, mental health, and opportunity. As that conversation finally gains traction in legacy media and men feel safer speaking without being labeled misogynists, I have chosen to return to women’s issues as well. The two causes aren’t separate. They’re two sides of the same wound.

The most urgent crisis of our time is the growing rift between men and women. It fuels every other societal fracture—falling birth rates, lonely young men, exhausted young women, and children growing up without stable homes. I believe, if we want to heal that rift, we must begin by restoring the honor of womanhood and motherhood.

For decades we’ve told girls that real value lies in becoming more like men. Chase the corner office. Delay marriage and babies until your résumé is bulletproof. Prioritize “self-actualization” over self-sacrifice. We told girls and women that to have value in our modern world, they have to be more like traditional men. If that isn’t a form of misogyny, I don’t know what is. It dismisses the very things that make female biology and female psychology distinct and powerful. We’ve convinced generations of young women that motherhood is a detour, not a destination. Some of us waited for “someday” until someday never came. I’ve shared my own story in Evie Magazine and with the Institute for Family Studies: how the years slipped by, how the window narrowed, and how the quiet grief of childlessness can arrive without warning. I am not alone.

Mothers today feel the anti-motherhood vibes. In a culture that measures worth in dollars and LinkedIn titles, staying home to raise children is treated as second-tier labor. Daycare is celebrated as liberation; a mother’s presence at the kitchen table is quietly pitied. Pop feminism of the last few decades has been successful at framing the most natural and noble female vocation as oppression. I discussed this on Newsweek’s 1600 Podcast last week. It is not progress. It is erasure.

We were not always this foolish.

Ancient civilizations understood something we have forgotten. A thriving society knew it could not survive without mothers who were honored, protected, and supported. I dove deep into this history in my Mother’s Day piece for Evie: When Did Motherhood Stop Being Sacred?

We can learn from ancient civilizations and use the wisdom to honor motherhood more today. Valuing motherhood doesn’t diminish women; it dignifies them. It doesn’t trap daughters in the past; it frees them from the lie that they must become imitation men to matter.

This isn’t nostalgia. It’s survival. The boy crisis didn’t appear in a vacuum. Pitting the sexes against each other in a battle for status, power and stuff has created a boys vs girls mentality. Men vs women. We’ve only supported girls and women for decades while putting boys’ and men’s issues on the back burner. We’ve shamed and blamed and mocked boys and men. We’ve taken away men’s purpose. And when motherhood is mocked or marginalized, boys lose the steady, loving presence that teaches them self-worth before the world teaches them they’re “bad”. Girls lose the model of womanhood that celebrates their unique gifts instead of urging them to suppress them. My Mother’s Day column in the Washington Examiner today is clear: decades of devaluing mothers and traditional family formation have left boys adrift and girls disillusioned. We must honor our mothers if we truly want to support our sons.

We don’t have to turn back the clock. I’m not saying women should be chained to the kitchen sink. I believe in women choosing their own paths, and I believe female representation is important. But “economic parity” should not be our top priority. Harmony should be. And we can still support women in their dreams while glorifying motherhood as the beautiful foundation of life and the unique female power that it is.

This Mother’s Day, let’s do something radical. Let’s honor mothers—not with cards, but with culture. Policy that supports families. Language that elevates motherhood instead of apologizing for it. Young women who hear, from every corner, that building a home and raising the next generation is not a downgrade but the highest form of love and creation… and is valued.

The rift between the sexes will not heal through more division. It will heal when men and women both feel seen and valued in their distinct strengths. And that healing begins when we crown womanhood once more—by declaring, without apology, that motherhood is sacred again.

The future of our civilization may depend on it.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​